The Process of Becoming

I used to think there would be a point where I would feel as if I had finally landed and felt like I “made it”. Yet, the more time I spend navigating the ups and downs of this beautifully hard life, I realize that arriving is only a concept of my youthful perception. 

Arriving is instead a continual process of self-discovery. 

Through the twists and turns you discover versions of yourself you never would have met if it weren’t for this continual process. People come and go. Circumstances rearrange themselves. The seasons bring new life. They shed light on things that are ready to fall away, whether we like it or not.

When we are stripped of all that we knew, we are left within this uncomfortable space where everything is rearranging around us. It is the potent ground of the in between. This place can feel empty and disorienting. However, it is also the space of a rebirth. When we allow things to fall away, we find ourselves in a space fertile with possibility.

This space can be difficult to navigate because inviting in a new way of being is something that has to be done with intention and awareness. Our old ways that are so familiar and habitual will come to the surface. Those old ways hold the wisdom of what we have yet to tend to. These ways don’t rise to shame us, but rather usher us to stay present with the experience of the in between, as they reveal how to move towards a life of greater expansion. 

This is why arriving is mostly an illusion. Arriving is really a becoming. It is being able to stay present with a life unfolding and revealing to you what you need to move forward. We move forward with our past wounds still there, but each time they are touched by a person, a circumstance, or a memory, we are given a moment to see the wound through what it is revealing and healing within us. It’s within the revealing that we begin to integrate. The wound holds the wisdom of your greatest becoming.

So, if you are within the empty space of the in between. Where things feel more tender. Where you feel not quite grounded within yourself. Stay present here. This isn’t a place to label as bad or to rush through. But rather to move slowly and reorient yourself to an ever present unfolding of who you really are. Everything that has fallen away or that isn’t working out is creating a space for what is on its way to you.

Maybe the arriving is YOU. You coming home to yourself with welcoming and open arms. Arriving is meeting yourself over and over again with more grace and compassion. 

May you let yourself embrace all of who you have been, of who you are, and of who you are becoming.