The Process
These past few weeks have been very up and down for me. I have come face-to-face with my crumbling confidence as well as grief over where and how things have landed for me thus far. Not that it’s bad, but sadness is present nonetheless. And within all of this, I had a moment that brought me full circle. I was broken down and in tears when I felt this sense of light take hold deep in my bones - grief is the portal to every major transformation. And I was clearly being asked to let the transformation take place. I will honestly say that I am still within that process and the pain that we can experience within transformations can feel overwhelming at times.
Letting go & Letting in
What a profound statement. What if we explored the concept of grief being something to let in. To be with. Where grief has a welcomed seat at our table. What if we didn’t have to try so hard to let go but rather just invited more of it in. Instead of pushing ourselves to move on, we move forward WITH the loss.
A Ritual: Be With
The phrase “be with” is what has gotten me through some of my darkest moments this last year. I was cracked wide open to the grief of losing a relationship but also to all the grief that still lived within my mind and body that had been unattended to. The practice of being with something is to slow down, to honor and to give your presence to. Within this time and space of my life, I now stood on the ground that left no other option than to “be with” my grief, truly and fully, for the first time in my life.
Acceptance within Grief
You will release and move towards acceptance when you are ready. And I also want to be clear that acceptance doesn’t mean you are okay with what has happened, it means that you are courageous enough to meet a life that looks very different than the one you thought.
The Dance Between
As cliche as it may sound, life really is a dance between the polarities of our world, our reality. We are an embodiment of that polarity and the dance between. We breathe in and we breathe out.
Take Your Time
If you are moving through grief, I invite you to let go of the timeline. Release the need to be better for your friends and family and bring your attention back to your heart, your center.
Take Time to Honor
Take time to honor and be present with the life you are living and the life living through you.
Breathe Into the Anxiety
Take a moment to breathe. Our breath can bring us back to the present and when experiencing anxiety, grounding our energy, creating space with the breath in the mind and body, can help us move towards calm.