The Process

These past few weeks have been very up and down for me. I have come face-to-face with my crumbling confidence as well as grief over where and how things have landed for me thus far. Not that it’s bad, but sadness is present nonetheless. And within all of this, I had a moment that brought me full circle. I was broken down and in tears when I felt this sense of light take hold deep in my bones - grief is the portal to every major transformation. And I was clearly being asked to let the transformation take place. I will honestly say that I am still within that process and the pain that we can experience within transformations can feel overwhelming at times.

Grieving literally is the process of new space being created. New light being able to enter. Every wound is asking us to acknowledge the pain that is still present. Otherwise, suffering will be imposed on our hearts. Grief holds the power to lead us to the release needed to process, heal, and begin to move forward. 

I have realized that the moment we allow ourselves to fully grieve and move through the process of letting something be, just as it is, especially when we aren’t happy about it, we meet ourselves at the threshold of transformation. Grief can look like clinging to the life we had or a person we had in our lives in some capacity, that is now no longer there and within that grasp we may feel closer to what we once had. This is a part of the process. As we continue to honor and to meet ourselves with curiosity, then we can begin to open. Grieving what was, better allows us to step fully into the life currently here. 

By releasing through grieving, we can create space for more to enter. 

And we are also paving a path to move forward.

Any time we are wishing things were different, we are creating our own suffering. So, in those moments that you are wishing it was different, I invite you to sit with that and meet yourself in a slightly different way. 

Direct your attention and complete devotion to your heart. 

Ask yourself, “what am I not letting go of? And is there something that I am not fully grieving?”. 

See what your heart says to you. 

And then invite in an openness for things to shift. 

Allow the grieving process to unfold. 

Remember to find nourishment along the way.

When we hold too tight we are grasping for control, but in letting go and grieving what needs to be released, we can open to a life of more ease.

May you trust in the process of your sacred heart.

And as always, Shar(e)on Lightly.